How to Reconnect With an Old Friend (Scripts for Every Situation)

Life gets busy, and sometimes even the most meaningful friendships can drift. Reaching out after a long silence can feel awkward, but a simple, heartfelt message is often all it takes to bridge the gap. This guide provides scripts for every situation, whether you want a light check-in or a deeper reconnection.

First, Decide Your Goal (Casual vs. Deep)

Before you write, ask yourself what you're hoping for. Is it just a warm, casual "thinking of you" message with no strings attached? Or are you hoping to open the door to a deeper conversation? Knowing your intention will help you choose the right words.

Scripts for a Light, Casual Check-In

These are perfect for low-pressure situations where you just want to let someone know they're on your mind.

The "Saw This and Thought of You"

Hey [Name], I was just listening to that [Song/Band] we used to love and it made me smile. Hope you're doing amazing!

The "Shared Memory"

Hey [Name], the other day I drove past [Place] and it reminded me of that time we [shared memory]. Good times! Hope you're well.

The Simple "How Are You?"

Hey [Name], it's been a while! You crossed my mind today and I just wanted to say hi and see how you're doing.

Scripts for a Deeper, Heartfelt Reconnection

These scripts are for when you want to acknowledge the distance and open the door to a more meaningful conversation.

The "I Miss Our Conversations"

Hi [Name], I know it's been a while, but I was thinking about our old conversations the other day. I really miss the way we used to talk about [topic]. I'd love to properly catch up sometime if you're open to it.

The "Acknowledging the Drift"

Hey [Name], I've been feeling bad about how long it's been since we really talked. Life got in the way, and I regret that we've drifted. You mean a lot to me, and I'd love to reconnect.

The "I Was Thinking About..."

Hi [Name], I was thinking about you and how much your support meant to me when I was going through [past event]. I never properly thanked you for that. I'd love to hear how you are these days.

A Note on Expectation

Your only goal is to send a kind message. Release any expectation of a reply—the value is in the act of reaching out itself.

Next Step: Craft the Perfect Message

If you're still unsure what to say, the guided experience in L06: The One You Have Missed can help you explore your memories and feelings to craft the perfect, authentic message.